Recently, I made a decision to walk away from Facebook. I wanted to take a moment and share my thoughts behind such decision. In the wake of this decision, I have had numerous people say, “I have been having the same thoughts”. Maybe this post will inspire you, confirm what you are thinking, or none of the above.
- Is my life really “news worthy”? In the climate of the changing culture, we have convinced ourselves that we are all famous and need to be doted on. Sorry to burst the bubble immediately, but I don’t think we are. I was yearning for people to notice my posts and comment on them. Please recognize me. Please think I am funny. Please think I am intelligent. Please think I can solve the worlds problems. Click. Like. Heart. Comment (and repeat as many times as possible).
- Addiction. Whew. Confession here: I was addicted to Facebook. Every time I turned on my phone my thumb immediately went to the blue icon. It was like breathing. I didn’t even think about it. I did this all day long. S-C-A-R-Y.
- “I don’t really need to know that about you.” A church bestie recently reminded me of a sermon we heard many years ago. It was titled “Familiarity Breeds Content”. In a nutshell, the more I get to know you, the easier it is to find fault. Am I really supposed to know every opinion that you have about everything? Remember when we used to live by the standard: never discuss politics and religion. Let’s be real, I don’t fully agree with that. After all, Jesus clearly instructed me to go into ALL the world proclaim the gospel. But there was something about that lil standard. It kept things friendly. It avoided division. It avoided conflict. Now please don’t misinterpret what I am saying.
I think there are appropriate moments for deep intimate discussions about culture and America. Discussions in which we examine our hearts and motives and seek change that enables us to live holy lives before our Father and communal lives with our neighbors.
However, at the end of the day, there’s 99% chance I am not influencing you through my opinionated Facebook post. Instead, I have created a diatribe that breeds contempt and an opportunity for hatred and division to spread. That is clearly not my Father’s business.
4. Time. Time. Time. Since having my sweet Judah (exactly 8 years ago today), life has been in warp speed. I try so hard to make it slow down and I can’t. Most of the time I just flow with it. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed and sad. Occasionally I cry. Truth is, time is slipping away and I can’t get it back. At this stage in life I need to be present. While social media is enjoyable, for me it was time consuming. I would sit in the play room with my boys, phone in hand and scroll the newsfeed while they played and carried on without me. I didn’t engage. I was just there. I don’t want my children to grow up and say “Mom stayed home with us but she was always on her phone”. Yikes!
I am sure there are some people in my life reading this and saying “what? I see you making post”. My husband and I have several businesses and ministries. We understand today’s culture and the impact social media has on advertising. We made a decision to keep those pages active. Through Facebook tools, I can do that without scrolling the newsfeed. I have stopped engaging in tagged posts. I don’t check them at all. Sorry. But I do love all you beautiful people!
Yes, I still engage in Instagram. I am a photographer. I like photos. I like to see people share their amazing life through photos. So yes, I still have several Instagram accounts. I haven’t left the grid people. It’s my social media and my life, so I can make the rules. I love adult life. HA!
Chances are you might be reading this through a Facebook share. That’s awesome! (giggle). Facebook is not evil. The newsfeed no longer fits my life. And that’s that.